Are you consciously creating 2011 or leaving it to chance?

Up until 3 years ago, I used to leave my life to chance and the reason I did that was because I didn’t know any better.  I didn’t know there were specific ways to make big positive changes in my life other than hoping, wishing and praying that things could be different.  Thankfully that is a thing of the past and I’m now able to really live life on my terms by consciously creating a life I love.  Now don’t get me wrong, life isn’t always a breeze, I do face challenges in the same way you do, the difference is that I’m able to navigate my way through them in a way that serves my highest good rather than sends me on a mission of self destruct.

Here are the building blocks I use to consciously create a life I love

1. Know what you want

It sounds simple doesn’t it, but it isn’t always so.  Many people are still stuck in what they don’t want and therefore keep receiving more of the same!  I suggest you sit down in a quiet space where you won’t get disturbed, make sure you have some paper, a pen, a cup of tea and get yourself comfy.  Write down all the things you didn’t want in 2010 but got anyway.  This isn’t the time to judge, criticise or blame yourself or anyone else, this is a time of growth and expansion, so stay out of that low vibration and look at it for what it is.  When you’ve got a minimum of 10 things, ask yourself “if I don’t want this in 2011, what do I want?”.  Make sure you use positive words, this means dis-cluding words like “no, not, don’t, can’t”.  Now add any other goals you want to achieve in the next 12 months.  Go through your list and take out your top 10 aspirations for 2011.  From now on focus only on what you want to achieve, rather than what you didn’t do last year or what you haven’t got right now.  If your focusing on the latter, this is the vibrational frequency you’re sending out to the universe and you’re only going to get more of the same back!

By knowing what I want personally and in my business in 2011, I’ve set 10 firm intentions and I’ve made a commitment to achieving them.  If you can believe it, a couple of them have started to manifest already!  Of course the rest aren’t going to happen on their own, I need to keep my eye on the prize and take the necessary action steps to get there.  This is exactly the same for you too, no resting on your laurels expecting your dream life to fall into place, there’s work to do.  I love my motto “Align on the inside, profit on the outside!”

2. Break the Cycle

Know that you will come up against resistance, sabotage, fear and other stuff that will get in the way of you achieving what you want.  This is normal and can be worked through, you just have to be aware of what’s happening and break the pattern, habit, belief or behaviour which is causing it.  This is when having a Coach, Mentor or Teacher comes in really handy because these cycles are often deep rooted in nature and require someone with skill to get you through them.  I’ve learned that the biggest hurdle when consciously creating a life I love is me!  The same goes for you, so, don’t waste anymore time, take the leap and get over yourself, life gets so much easier when you do.

In the last 3 years I’ve done plenty of ‘inner work’ and let go of many of the things that once held me back from achieving my true potential.  The inner healing has been amazing, if somewhat painful at times.  In doing so, I feel lighter, a deeper sense of happiness and have a connection with my true self like never before.  I know that I have the ability to achieve what I want, so if something isn’t working out, it’s easy for me to pinpoint what is really going on and do what needs to be done to shift myself to a higher place.  I’ve selected my Coach for next year and I can’t wait to take my business to a whole new level, whilst continuing to explore the depths of who I am on a spiritual level.  There will always be ‘work’ to do on myself and I love knowing that with help I can move through anything that gets in my way.

3. Find your tribe

This is so important, your tribe are the people you can turn to no matter what.  They are normally on the same path as you and get where you’re at.  These are the people who have also chosen to engage in their own personal and spiritual awareness and want to create their own reality based on a life they love.  They love you, support you and will be there for you when you need them.  Often they aren’t your parents, family or friends you’ve had since childhood.

When I first started on this path, I didn’t know anyone in Belgium who was on the same path as me.  At times I felt like I was going crazy, until I enrolled in an online Mastermind group.  This was my saving grace!  Each week we would meet over the phone/internet and our teacher would guide us through our challenges whilst sharing new insights with us.  I grew so quickly during these calls, they were invaluable.  It didn’t matter that I was on the calls at 10pm and didn’t get to bed until midnight, I needed this spiritual food and boy did I get fed.  Soon this wasn’t enough, I needed more, so I started my own monthly group and at the first session 16 people turned up, I was amazed!  Two years later the group has about 12 women who still meet regularly and are firm friends.  I hosted the last group in my home this month, it was so rewarding knowing that I had created something so important, not just for me but for the rest of the group also.

In May I re-worked my 2010 goals.  As I knew I was moving back to UK, I set a new intention to manifest my tribe, I wrote “I have a network of friends that I love to spend time with”.  Within a matter of weeks I had made new friends in the UK without ever meeting them and they continue to come into my life.  I’m so excited to get back home as I know I have found my tribe.  Don’t underestimate the power of your intentions nor your tribe!

4. Never give up believing!

There are so many people who give up just before they’re about to hit their high!  It’s such a shame to see people let go of their dreams just because the going got tough and their trust, belief and faith waned.  There is always something waiting for you, much bigger than you can anticipate, but it may take an element of being in the unknown for a while before it comes your way. Keep going, don’t stop and always grab the help that you need when you need it before it’s too late!

I’ve always had an optimistic nature and followed my heart.  There are times when I’ve fallen so hard but dusted myself down and got back up again even stronger than before.  Being on this wonderful path of self discovery ensures that I never give up believing, I’ve enjoyed too much over the last 2 years and it wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t trust, believe and hold the faith that there was a better life waiting for me.  There’s only 1 person who can make sure you get what you want and that’s you!

So there we have it my friends, some guidance to help you consciously create a 2011 with Happiness, Fulfilment and Success!

If it’s time for you to have the guidance, support and mentoring to help you achieve your dreams in 2011, contact me to find out about my new coaching program.  Whatever you want is out there waiting for you to grab hold of it with both hands, don’t let it slip through your fingers again, you’re worth living a life you love.

Love,

Natasha

As always comments and questions are welcome!

What do you do when your plans don’t plan out?

Have you ever made plans that fill you with excitement only to be let down at the last minute?  ”Oh yes!” I’m hearing you all say.  In fact, I don’t think there’s a single soul who hasn’t ever had this experience.  Briefly reminisce the last time this happened and recall how you dealt with the situation.  Did you gracefully accept the situation and move on without it causing any further negative effects or did you launch straight into disasterdom?

Why am I asking you these questions?  Well, this Christmas was set to be a calming delight, the first Christmas as Husband & Wife and the first time we would be spending it in our home, eating just one Christmas dinner.  For the last five years, we’ve spent Christmas day with both our Mums, eating two Christmas dinners and racing around trying to fit everyone in.  As we were staying in Brussels this year, it meant I could relax being five months pregnant and enjoy taking my time packing up our belongings before we move to UK on 2 Jan.

That was the plan and I was excited.

Then everything changed.  My plans were more than scuppered and it was out of my control.

All I could do was practice what I preach and walk my talk.  My experience has been invaluable and I want to share it with you.

Four days before Christmas my Husband, Chris was told that his Nan had had a stroke and had bleeding on the brain, it was just a matter of time before she transitioned.  Chris was deeply upset and wanted to get back to UK to say his last goodbye.  The snow was causing havoc and any which way he tried to get home there seemed to be a problem.  It was 22 Dec and I had a feeling that if he went, he wouldn’t be home for Christmas.  On top of that our cat Mia was really sick and I felt that we may need to get her to the vets at some point, something I wasn’t able to do on my own with all the snow.

Chris kept checking flights and as soon as one came up, he packed a bag and headed off.  I was happy he’d managed to get home and remained positive that we’d be reunited on Christmas Eve and if he wasn’t I trusted that there would be a reason for it to be that way.  After Chris left, I spoke to the vet as Mia hadn’t eaten all day and seemed to be deteriorating.  We agreed to help her transition the following week.  I have 2 cats, Mia and Pudding, they’ve been with me for the last 13 years and have filled my life with love and comfort and have always been such great company.  I called Mia a human cat because she literally needed to have human touch and knew exactly what I was saying when I spoke to her, she was also extremely intelligent and was the fastest fly catcher I’ve ever seen.  She loved to be picked up, stroked and cuddled and often got into bed with me, head on pillow, paws around me.  She was my equivalent of a baby.

Within a matter of hours of making the decision to help Mia, she seemed to get worse and the pain of seeing her suffer told me it really was time for her to go.  I contacted the vet again and agreed that we should bring the time forward to Christmas Eve.  Chris was due back on his flight from UK in the afternoon and we were going to take her together.  The thought of Mia not being around was so painful but I knew this couldn’t be about me, it had to be about her and I had to let her go.  At the same time, it was something that both Chris and I needed to do together, she was an integral part of our family and we had to say our goodbyes as a family.

The next morning I lay in bed with Mia, being in the present and enjoying our last cuddles together.  I was talking to her, letting her know all was well and she’d soon be enjoying a beautiful peaceful sleep where she could rest in comfort.  The snow had been melting the day before and the roads were quite clear, so you can imagine my horror when I opened the front door and my street was covered with a huge amount of snow and it wasn’t letting up anytime soon.  I instantly burst into tears, crying uncontrollably, I knew Brussels airport would be closed and Chris wouldn’t be home that day.  There was no way of me getting Mia to the vet.  I was distraught thinking of my baby having to suffer another day.  I could deal with Chris not being here for Christmas, I just couldn’t deal with him not being here to help me help Mia.

I got onto the internet and it was confirmed, Brussels airport was closed.  There was no way I was going to be able to drive, the snow was too thick and my heart was breaking.  This was a tough, emotionally challenging day and I knew I had to reach out for support from people who were in a position to support me.  With this support I was able to clear my head and let go of any attachments to how my Christmas was supposed to be.  I couldn’t change anything, I just had to deal with it and find a solution that worked.  It was important for me to stay out of any drama that could turn the situation into something more than it was.  By practicing what I preach to my clients, I was able to turn the could-be disaster of Christmas into a delight.

The truth is we create our reality every second of every day, it’s up to us to be vigilant when it comes to creating that which doesn’t serve us.  The Natasha of a few years ago would have created a drama and Christmas would have been a disaster, instead it took an awareness from my side to consciously create a reality that allowed me to enjoy Christmas day, even though my plans didn’t plan out.

Chris finally got home late on Boxing night and we took Mia to peacefully transition the following morning.  It was a painfully emotional day and I know there is more emotion to release, I’m just thankful I was able to salvage some of the festive season.

A big thank you goes out to Helen Kerrison , an amazing friend, for spending a wonderful Christmas day with me and to all my friends & family, including Facebook friends, who shared their love and prayers when I really needed it.

Love,

Natasha

P.S. As always, your comments and questions are welcome!

Decide your way to Success

The last few months have been exciting and hectic to say the least.  I planned my wedding in just under 5 months, managed to get pregnant just before the big day and I’ve been organising my impending return to UK.  There’s nothing like doing all the big stuff at once eh

As I look back on pre-married life, I’ve gained some valuable insights that are sure to hold me in good stead during my married life.  One which I’m going to share with you today is all about making good solid decisions that will allow you to bring pretty much anything new you want to achieve in your life.

I’m sure you can remember only too well some of the decisions you’ve made in the past that didn’t get past the words being uttered from your mouth.  Then there are the decisions that you actually followed through with true brilliance and your success was a masterpiece.  So how can you turn every potential life changing decision into one that gets you where you want to be in your life?

Here’s some tips to help you on your way:

1. The strength of your decision is everything. A half hearted “I’m gonna quit smoking & spend more time in the gym”, probably isn’t going to be strong to follow through on.  When you make a decision to enhance your life in any way, the decision needs to come from a place of inner strength, power and commitment.
2. What’s your reason? This is a really important question to take time to answer. Why is this decision important and what’s your reason for wanting it to stick?  The more reasons you have, the greater the need to achieve.  The greater the need to achieve the more likely you are to stay on track until completion.  As Edison once said ‘‘Many of life’s failures are people who did not realise how close they were to success when they gave up”
3. Have a P.O.A. – Plan of Action. If your decision is to reach your ideal weight, you most definitely want to consider a food plan, an exercise regime and most importantly you need to get educated on the subject.  Follow through is the hardest part of your decision, it’s easy to fall at the first hurdle but when you have a plan of action which also takes into consideration what you’ll do when you do fall, it’s easier to get back on your feet and continue to move forward.
4. Believe you can achieve and you’ll notice opportunities everywhere. That’s right, when you truly believe in yourself and your ability to stand by your decision, you’ll be surprised at what suddenly seems to appear as an open door.  These doors are everywhere, only you’ve mentally closed them because you don’t believe they’re there for you!!
5. Remember the Law of Attraction is always in Action.  The Law of Attraction has recently become more widely known and understood as a fundamental law of the universe.  In short, you attract the people, the places, the circumstances and the events into your life depending on where you focus your thoughts, feelings and attention.  If you focus on the lack in your life, guess what, you will indeed experience more lack.  If your glass is half full, then your life will be more full.

As the great American poet Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen”. Everything you need surrounds you, the people, the places, the circumstances and the events – when you make your solid strong decision to get to where you want to be, you open your mind to every possibility and you become receptive to that which will ultimately lead to your success.

Love,

Natasha