Compromise or Have it All?

My husband prefers strawberry jam and I prefer raspberry.  Rather than buy 2 jars of jam, I always used to buy just the strawberry.  Every time I’d reach for the jam, I always wished I had the flavour I preferred but just made do.  I compromised my desire for raspberry jam for my partner, whom I loved.  Seems silly doesn’t it, why didn’t I just go for it and buy an extra jar of jam, ultimately giving myself what I desired and what my husband desired, a win win situation.

I compromised.

Thinking I was coming from a place of love, I gave my husband what he wanted and denied myself what I wanted.  I didn’t share the love with myself.  Ok, so it was only jam but the thing was, it then moved onto the yoghurts.  I rarely bought myself a raspberry yoghurt, it was always strawberry.

I never asked my husband to compromise, I always gave that job to myself.

Then it moved onto trifles, now don’t get me wrong I don’t buy many trifles but I LOVE raspberry trifle but because I’d compromised on the jam and the yoghurt, I compromised on the trifle too.

Do you get where I’m going here?

Let’s take a look at the definition of Compromise: the acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable.

I was accepting standards that were lower than desirable.  I was selling myself short.  I was giving up on my desires.

Once you compromise in one part of your life, it becomes an acceptable behaviour and in turn gives your permission to compromise in other areas.  I wasn’t worthy of raspberry jam, yoghurt and trifle so why would I be worthy of my other desires?

I’m pleased to say, I knocked that behaviour on the head and ALWAYS have 2 jars of jam and make sure if I fancy a yoghurt or trifle I get what I want.

I no longer compromise because I am worthy.

The love I share with others, I also share with myself.

I go for my desires and ultimately my dreams.

Never again will I compromise on what I want because that’s mediocre living.  Life isn’t about mediocrity, life is about having it all.

You, me, everybody, can have it all.

So let me leave you with this question, where are you compromising in your life and what can you do to change that?

Love,

Natasha x

Find Your Feminine F.L.O.W. (Fulfilment, Love, Opportunity, Wealth) Tip #1

To find your Feminine FLOW (Fulfilment, Love, Opportunity & Wealth) you must first clear your clutter. Start by making a decision to heal the childhood traumas that are affecting your present & ultimately your future. This is essential, otherwise your capabilities will always be capped.

Living YOUR Purpose musing, journal entry 11 April 2011

Living YOUR Purpose isn’t about pushing or chasing or living someone else’s dream or forgetting you have a purpose.  Living YOUR Purpose is about being YOU, the REAL YOU without letting fear, doubt or worry get in your way.  The REAL YOU is the authentic you, the transparent you, the you that is in its natural state of ease and flow.

Pushing and chasing and living someone else’s dream and forgetting you have a purpose isn’t natural, it goes against the grain of who you really are on a fundamental level.

It keeps you stuck, unhappy, in fear, desperate.

Living YOUR Purpose isn’t just about the work you do, it’s about EVERYTHING you do. When you deny yourself of YOU, you aren’t allowing your authentic self to shine through.

Clear your stuff.

Heal your wounds.

Break the non-serving cycles.

Become emotionally available.

When you do you’ll let the REAL YOU shine through.

Love Natasha x

Are you ready to Breakthrough your Success Barriers?

I don’t know about you, but breaking through the barriers that keep me small are at the top of my to do list.  It was only a couple of weeks ago when I had a head on collision with two major barriers that I didn’t realise were lurking in my reality.  My birthday, 16 June, was the day after the total eclipse of the moon, which brought about massive shifts for many people.   In order to shift and transform the realities that no longer serve you, you have to face that which is causing you a low vibration.

In my case, I had a good old dose of the ‘I’m a failure and I can’t do anything right’.  I cried, had a mini tantrum, cried some more then had a great healing session with one of my closest friends, Sasha Allenby and in less than an hour we managed to move through this pattern that I’d been holding onto for 7 years!  Thank goodness Sasha was on hand to get me through it because otherwise I’m not sure my birthday would have turned out to be as beautiful as it was.

The next day I experienced another huge transformation.  Little did I know that I’d been a carrier of the ‘there’s not enough’ syndrome.  I tell ya, that one took a while to uncover, who would have thought, me of all people held that belief inside me..well it just goes to show, even when you’re in the coaching/mentoring/healing business, you still have to work on yourself to clear the pesky little patterns that keep ya capping your capabilities.

Why am I telling you all this?

First of all, I want you to know that I’m human and I go through tough times just as much as you do.  Secondly, if I’m experiencing this stuff and clearing it successfully, then I want to help you do exactly the same.  When I raise my vibration and ultimately my consciousness, I open up the space to allow you to do it too.

So here’s the deal, I had a great opportunity to be part of ‘The Shift – Women On Purpose’ Telesummit organised by Christine Laureano.  Twelve teachers living life on purpose came together to bring you valuable teachings to help you on your journey.

You can still watch these for free just click on the link below and register:

http://wahmcart.com/x.php?adminid=2630&id=9756

As part of my commitment to you, I’d like to work with some of you who are committed to your own success and hence want to breakthrough the current barrier which is holding you back from achieving more Happiness, Fulfilment and Success.  All you have to do, if you haven’t already is watch my video, take notes and answer some questions.  When you’ve you’ve answered the questions I’d like to offer you some time with me.  Now this time is precious and limited, I have a 7 week old baby and for me to give you my time, I have to make sure she’s looked after by someone else.

So here’s the scoop.  I’m offering you 2 x 45 minute breakthrough sessions, you’ll get pre-work, post-work and during the 3 weeks you’ll get homeplay (homework to those who don’t know what homeplay is), plus email support.

All of this for just £147.  Bargain!

If it’s time for you to get closer to living a life you love, then answer the following questions based on my video for ‘The Shift – Women On Purpose’ and email them back to info@natashaabudarham.com.  The first 5 people to correctly answer the questions get to do some serious inner alignment and guess what happens when you align on the inside…yep, you profit on the outside, whether that’s in your business, relationships, health, career, spirituality….any aspect of your life!

Here’s the questions:

1. What are the 3 fundamental steps that I share during the video?

2. List the 5 steps in the ‘Flow Through Process’

3. What AHA’s, insights or learnings did you have through watching the video?

Here’s the link to ‘The Shift – Women On Purpose’: http://wahmcart.com/x.php?adminid=2630&id=9756

You’re half way through the year, be good to yourself and make it your best year yet!

To your Ultimate Happiness, Fulfilment & Success!

Love,

Natasha x