Where’s all the worth gone?

Last week I was sorting through an old folder and found a list of goals that I’d written when I was living in Argentina in 2006.  I’d replied to an ad on an Expat website, that said something like this:

• Are you tired and lacking energy?
• Would you like to be happier and enjoy life more?
• Are there things you are missing out on?
• Is it time for change?

I ticked all the boxes and oh yes, I was definitely ready for change, so I immediately signed on the dotted line!  A few days later a lovely American Woman came to our apartment and Chris and I started some Coaching sessions.

The first thing she got us to do was to write out our 1 month, 3 month and 6 month goals, 9 in total, 3 items in each area.  When I found the paper, I reminisced the 5 months we’d been in Buenos Aires.  We’d had a great time, met loads of people, ate amazing food, drank delicious beer and wine but could have enjoyed it more if we hadn’t been tied to our jobs.

At the time, I was in desperate mode and just about had my head above water.  As usual I was trying harder and harder and wouldn’t give up.  Whilst this trait has served me in many ways, it’s also been a detriment and kept me doing things for far longer than I should have, with little or no reward.

The fact is, you can keep doing the same thing over and over with little or no reward but it ain’t gonna change much.  These are the things you want to drop like a hot potato and try something different, even if you have no idea if the change will actually change anything!

So when I read through my 9 goals, I wasn’t let’s say jumping with joy.  When Chris came home, I showed him the paper and with a big smile he said ‘ you’ve done well, look at how much you’ve achieved’.  I sighed and said ‘are you taking the p*@*s’.  He said ‘no, you have done well, are you taking the p*@*?’.  I proceeded to go through each goal and explained why I’d failed so miserably.

I then caught myself.  I was in one of my recurring themes, running it like a well known film.  I’d become blindsided, focusing on what I hadn’t achieved.  Everyone has non-serving recurring themes, you can pin point yours by becoming aware of your inner self talk and mistakes that you seem to make over and over.

Once it was in my awareness, I was able to open my eyes and mind and read the goals in a different context and yes I had achieved them, 100%.  Why is this story relevant and why am I sharing it with you?  The point is that if I’m falling into this behaviour, then it’s likely that you are too.

Take a look at where you are devaluing yourself unnecessarily and do what you’ve got to, to raise that self worth through the roof.  We’ve been trained long enough to put everything but ourselves first and I’m asking you to stop doing that.  Put yourself first, open your eyes to your worth and if you know that there is more out there waiting for you, then don’t let anything get in the way.  Because your ego will find every excuse to keep you small and so will other people.

People who are stuck in their own low self worth stuff, people who stopped dreaming long ago and people who would begrudge you having what you want.  Don’t get me wrong they don’t do it to hurt you, in fact quite the opposite, they think they’re helping you but in fact they’re just consulting their own writings on their walls, which is telling them they can’t have what they want.

And the people closest to you, the ones who love you can also sabotage your success.  It doesn’t matter how much they love you, how hard you try to explain to them or how much they get you, they can’t possibly share the same feelings as you because they aren’t you.  They aren’t inside your body, feeling what you’re feeling, seeing what you’re seeing, thinking what you’re thinking or hearing what you hear.

If you have that deep knowing that you are here for something more than you are sharing right now, then you must start listening to that voice of wisdom.  The inner you, the perfect you, the all knowing you, is on your side and will help you get to where you’re supposed to be.

You can have what you want and do you know how I know, because I have what I want and if I can have it then so can you.

Put yourself first, own up to what’s keeping you small and do what you’ve got to do to make it happen.  When you’re happy and fulfilled, everyone around you benefits so much more than when you deny yourself your truth.

Love,

Natasha

The Walk Out

I remember July 2008 very clearly, I was crying my eyes out after having another ear bashing from my boss.  Clearly I couldn’t carry on like this, I was miserable and of course it was all down to the job I hated and the boss who didn’t seem to let up.  I’d been thinking about quitting for months but didn’t have the courage to let go of the only income I had and with very little money in the bank, I couldn’t afford to just walk out without having another job to go to.  The problem was that the job had been slowly killing me for the last 12 months and the more miserable I became, the more desperately I searched for a way out.

That night I went to bed and something seemed to shift in me because I woke up the next morning a changed Woman.  I knew exactly what I needed to do and nothing was going to stop me from doing it.

Within the week, I had cut off my hair, cleared out my wardrobe, let go of draining friends and with a brand new outlook on life, I walked into work and handed in my resignation.  The relief I felt when I walked out the door was amazing. It wasn’t just a job I was walking out on, finally I had set myself free from the shackles that had held me captive for far too long.

I’d love to say that my ‘walk out’ happened out of the blue, but it didn’t.  It was the previous 7 months of diving into the inner me and clearing away all the cobwebs that kept me stuck.  Today I still do exactly the same, if something isn’t serving my highest good, then I simply walk out of that state and step into the shoes that belong to me.  It’s not always easy which is why I choose to have people help me along the way and just as importantly I choose to be my own best friend.

Sending my love to those of you who have also been set free and courage to those who are nearly there.

Love,
Natasha

What gives you pleasure?

I lay in bed a couple of days ago and gave myself a lie in treat and decided to listen to a radio show through my iphone.  The topic was all about ‘what gives you pleasure’.  As I lay there thinking I knew the answer, it became evidently clear that I needed to go deeper into this subject.

Since becoming a Life Change Specialist, I have put my heart and soul into helping people transform their ordinary lives into lives they love.  In return, I get great pleasure from watching my clients step into their unique shoes by discovering their real self.  The self that loves their life. 

Loving your job and gaining pleasure from it, is only one aspect of living, there has to be pleasure in other areas too.  And as a solopreneur, you can often get caught up in the running of your business (and everything else that comes with it) and before you realise it, you’ve forgotten what it was like to explore new ways of bringing pleasure into your life.

For the rest of the day, I made it my mission to speak to myself (and yes I did it out loud), asking over and over “what gives me pleasure”.  It was amazing how I started to discover myself all over again and realise that unintentionally, I had let some of the fun slip from my life.

Immediately, I began to do some fun stuff for me.  Singing in the shower, making myself laugh, wearing my best clothes, I even took 2 hours off work to visit a tea shop I had never been to.  By the time I got home, I was so uplifted and even more connected to myself that I made a promise to bring more pleasure into my life.

In that moment, a light bulb went on and I thought, if I have done this, then I know for sure that others will have too.  So my question for you to ponder today, is simply, “what gives you pleasure”.

Healing yourself to help others heal

If someone would have told me 5 years ago I would be doing what I’m doing now, I would have laughed until next week.  There would have been absolutely no way I could get my head around what some people call the woo woo new age stuff!

Fast forward to now and waoah, it’s a completely different ball game.  Now I’m fully immersed in my own healing, spiritual and personal growth that I can’t get enough of it and in fact it’s my number one core value before anything else.  And yes even before my 2 beautiful cats Mia and Pudding

You see, I figure that when I am running on a full battery, I’m able to give myself fully to everyone else around me.  Even if it’s to take those few extra moments to give a warm smile to the girl on the checkout who looks like she’s had a terrible day.  To wave a thank you hand with a smile to the guy that nearly runs me over on the zebra crossing    To give my family the nurturing they need when times get tough. 

When I’m feeling good, other people feel good without realising why.  When I’m on form, the world is such a great place to so many people.  When I pursue excellence, it gives others the motivation to do the same.  You see my full battery allows me to give in so many ways, which is why when I heal myself, I help others to heal too.

I love my life, I love my job, I love that I learned how to heal.

Karl Dawson, EFT Master back in Brussels

After the success of Karl Dawson’s Courses last year, I asked him to come back again and he warmly accepted!

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping is becoming more and more popular as people seek alternatives to traditional medical and health practices.  Science is rapidly catching up and can now prove that energy therapies such as EFT can radically transform lives, including PTSD, Serious Disease, Stress, Anxiety, Fears, Phobias and much more

It was through my own transformation using EFT that I became much more than a fan and gave up my day job to focus on helping people making changes to their lives that were once seen as impossible.  Here are some of the ways that I’ve benefitted from EFT:

• Fully heal my abnormal cervix cells, they are now completely normal after 10 years
• Released 20 + years of constant headaches and migraines
• Eliminated neck, shoulder, hip, lower back and knee problems
• Stop regular bouts of flu, colds, sinus infections (I was getting one of these every 2 months lasting for up to 6 weeks!!)
• Increase my confidence and self esteem
• Let go of anger, grief and desperation
• Remove blocks, habits, patterns and beliefs that were keeping me dead on the spot

If you think EFT might be right for you, you can come to my ‘Discover EFT’ workshop in Brussels on Tue 9 February at 19.30.  Click for more information.

If you know EFT is right for, take a look at the Course details with Karl Dawson.  Click for more information.

I just want it out!

I had a personal EFT / Matrix Reimprinting session with an excellent practitioner, Ted Wilmont in UK on Thursday.  I truly believe that as a Coach and Healing Practitioner, it’s absolutely necessary to consistently work through your own traumas and to have someone guiding you to be the best you can be.

In my session with Ted, I worked on a couple of issues, the first was an incident that had occurred last March on an aeroplane.  I was flying back from Dominican Republic with my boyfriend after a much deserved holiday.  We’d been on the plane for about an hour when the food came round.  I wanted the fish but ended up with beef.  Rather than stop what I was doing and concentrate on eating my food, I was more interested in watching the movie and eating without mindfullness (WARNING, EAT MINDFULLY!!).

I obviously hadn’t chewed the meat properly and swallowed it in a chunk, which subsequently got stuck in my throat.  I felt that it needed some help to go down, so had some water.  Gulp after gulp and nothing moved, the meat was firmly lodged and the water ended up gurgling out of my mouth.  At this point I started to panic and tried to get out of my seat but my seatbelt was on, my boyfriend then began to panic and also tried to get out of his seat.  Those few moments seemed to last forever. 

The air hostesses did their best but neither of them really knew how to do the heimlich manoeuvre to get the meat out. After banging on my back, squeezing my abdominals and fingers down my throat, the meat moved and I could breathe, thankfully.  However, I was still in a panic and just wanted to get it out, but no matter what we tried it was still there.  This ordeal lasted for the longest hour of my life before it finally went down. 

In those first few moments I honestly thought I was going to die.  My life flashed before me and all I could think about was the people I would leave behind.  Thankfully, it wasn’t my time to go and instead I learned a lot from the experience, one of them being to chew my food properly!

I knew that the incident would affect me on some level but it wasn’t immediately noticeable.  That is until this year, whenever I ate quite solid foods, I would feel as though it was getting stuck, regardless of how much I chewed.  This started to happen on a more frequent basis, until it got to the point where I was having problems taking my vitamins.  I would swallow and my throat would go into panic, which then led to my mind going into panic.

I had previously had an EFT/Matrix Reimprinting session with someone else and I had done some EFT on myself but still it seemed that there was some trauma that needed to be released.  I told Ted the story and he led me through a Matrix Reimprinting session.

One of the key things with EFT and Matrix work is listening to the client, what words are they using that are important to help the client to heal.  In this instance. Ted heard me say ‘out’ quite a few times.  The water came out of my mouth, I couldn’t get out of my seat, my boyfriend couldn’t get out of his seat, the air hostesses couldn’t get it out, I just wanted it out.  Time again I was using the word, out, this was a crucial understanding for Ted to know how to help me heal. 

An important understanding is that this incident was unexpected, dramatic, isolated and I didn’t know what to do, a perfect trauma recipe.

Ted knew exactly what to do and directed me into the Matrix to help my ECHO who was stuck repeating the same event over and over.  As I stepped in, I got my ECHO out of the seat where she was choking, I took her to the front of the plane, performed the heimlich manoeuvre and the meat came out within seconds, she picked it up out of the sink and said ‘thank God it’s out’.

Sitting in my chair speaking to Ted through skype, I felt immediate relief and began to laugh.  The trauma was finally healed!  Throughout the day I had a lightness that stayed with me along with a smile all I kept thinking was ‘Thank God it’s out’.

On reflection, the meat getting stuck in my throat was exactly what I feeling at the time.  I felt stuck in my job and I felt extremely trapped. It’s amazing how our body mirrors what we are going through in our life.

It is amazing how far we have advanced when it comes to healing emotions, traumas, sickness, disease and much more.  Matrix Reimprinting  really is a cutting edge technique and I’m so thankful to Karl Dawson for creating it and to Gary Craig for sharing his EFT wisdom with the world. 

And of course a huge thanks to Ted for finally getting it out!

I healed my body!

For over 20 years, I suffered with daily headaches and regular migraines.  For 8 years I saw a chiropractor every 3-4 weeks for neck tension and back problems, prior to this I endured weeks off work with a bulging disc.  I would have a cold or a sinus infection at least every 6- 8 weeks, most of the time resulting in taking antibiotics.  At school I was known as snotrag Tash, because I always had tissues stuffed up my sleeve.  If there was any kind of bug or virus, you bet I would go down with it also.  Flying could be a nightmare as I nearly always got ill with some kind of cold.  I also suffer with asthma, hayfever and allergies.  My excuse is I have a weak immune system.

A big part of my quest for inner peace, happiness and fulfilment is to release past traumas, hurts and wounds through EFT.  I have been having regular EFT sessions for the last 12 months with profound results.  Within the first 3 months, the daily headaches beame infrequent, I no longer needed to see a chiropractor and my colds were very few and far between.  Whilst my immune system still has a long way to go, I am certain that within time, I will be free from my remaining asthma, hayfever and allergies. 

Ten years ago, I was diagnosed with having abnormal cervix cells.  I can’t remember being told what that could mean to me, all I know is that I had regular check ups to make sure they didn’t get worse.  The bad cells didn’t bother me so I wasn’t bothered about them.  That is until I received the results from a routine check up in August of last year.

I received a letter advising that the cells had changed to moderate dyskarosis and I needed to have a colposcopy.  I had no idea what either of them meant, so immediately googled them both.  My heart was thumping and my body was trembling, the fear rushing through me was telling me that I could have cancer.  How could my cells be abnormal for 10 years and now show some kind of change if it wasn’t something serious?  All the results I found on the internet pointed to the same conclusion. 

I barely slept all night, tossing and turning and worrying about the colposcopy (a camera that looks at the cells more closely) the following week.  Luckily, I had an EFT session booked with my practitioner the following day, which really helped to reduce the fear that had taken over.  She told me that it was likely the cells had changed because I had done so much inner healing work over the last year or so.  By the time I left her, I was confident that even if I did have cancer, I was going to heal myself.

The colposcopy showed that the abnormal cells needed to be removed so as to prevent cancer and the procedure could be done there and then.  I had made my mind up that I was going to heal myself, so refused the treatment and asked if I could come back.  They took a biopsy and told me to expect an appointment to come through within 6 weeks.  I wasn’t sure if I could heal myself in 6 weeks but I was going to give it a go.

During this time, Jade Goody a well known woman in the UK, had been diagnosed with having cancer of the cervix.  The news was plastered on the front page of every magazine and most women were talking about it.  The news was shattering, yet I knew deep inside this was not going to be me.

To my surprise, the biopsy results came back and although the cells were still abnormal there was no need for immediate removal, just another test in 6 months.  I was over the moon, I now had 6 months to spend healing my body.  Those few months seemed to run by and before I knew it I was back at the hospital this April.

Once again, the colposcopy showed the cells were abnormal, the Doctor said they would do a smear test and see what results were.  I must admit I was really disappointed, I was really hoping to see a healed cervix.  This made me even more determined to continue working on myself and healing my past.

I decided to consult a coach who specialises in German New Medicine.  German New Medicine is a method that enables diagnosis of medical conditions through recognising the emotional root causes.  Every illness, disease, ailment has an emotional cause behind it.  This is something I already knew and felt at this point I could benefit from knowing the emotional root cause.  I was quite surprised at the diagnosis as the event had happened 17 years ago and I was sure that I was over it.  Luckily, I had support from an EFT friend who spent some time working on the issues with me to the point of resolution.

At this point, I wasn’t sure what the results from the April appointment were going to be, I was sure however, that if they were negative, I would most definitely be healed now.

I received the results last week.

After 10 years of abnormal cervix cells, my cells are now normal.  Of course the Doctors want to make sure they stay that way and I have to go back in 6 months.  The point is that right now, my cells are normal.  Rather than having part of my body removed, I chose to heal myself and that’s exactly what I did.  I can not tell you how wonderful that makes me feel.