Where’s all the worth gone?

Last week I was sorting through an old folder and found a list of goals that I’d written when I was living in Argentina in 2006.  I’d replied to an ad on an Expat website, that said something like this:

• Are you tired and lacking energy?
• Would you like to be happier and enjoy life more?
• Are there things you are missing out on?
• Is it time for change?

I ticked all the boxes and oh yes, I was definitely ready for change, so I immediately signed on the dotted line!  A few days later a lovely American Woman came to our apartment and Chris and I started some Coaching sessions.

The first thing she got us to do was to write out our 1 month, 3 month and 6 month goals, 9 in total, 3 items in each area.  When I found the paper, I reminisced the 5 months we’d been in Buenos Aires.  We’d had a great time, met loads of people, ate amazing food, drank delicious beer and wine but could have enjoyed it more if we hadn’t been tied to our jobs.

At the time, I was in desperate mode and just about had my head above water.  As usual I was trying harder and harder and wouldn’t give up.  Whilst this trait has served me in many ways, it’s also been a detriment and kept me doing things for far longer than I should have, with little or no reward.

The fact is, you can keep doing the same thing over and over with little or no reward but it ain’t gonna change much.  These are the things you want to drop like a hot potato and try something different, even if you have no idea if the change will actually change anything!

So when I read through my 9 goals, I wasn’t let’s say jumping with joy.  When Chris came home, I showed him the paper and with a big smile he said ‘ you’ve done well, look at how much you’ve achieved’.  I sighed and said ‘are you taking the p*@*s’.  He said ‘no, you have done well, are you taking the p*@*?’.  I proceeded to go through each goal and explained why I’d failed so miserably.

I then caught myself.  I was in one of my recurring themes, running it like a well known film.  I’d become blindsided, focusing on what I hadn’t achieved.  Everyone has non-serving recurring themes, you can pin point yours by becoming aware of your inner self talk and mistakes that you seem to make over and over.

Once it was in my awareness, I was able to open my eyes and mind and read the goals in a different context and yes I had achieved them, 100%.  Why is this story relevant and why am I sharing it with you?  The point is that if I’m falling into this behaviour, then it’s likely that you are too.

Take a look at where you are devaluing yourself unnecessarily and do what you’ve got to, to raise that self worth through the roof.  We’ve been trained long enough to put everything but ourselves first and I’m asking you to stop doing that.  Put yourself first, open your eyes to your worth and if you know that there is more out there waiting for you, then don’t let anything get in the way.  Because your ego will find every excuse to keep you small and so will other people.

People who are stuck in their own low self worth stuff, people who stopped dreaming long ago and people who would begrudge you having what you want.  Don’t get me wrong they don’t do it to hurt you, in fact quite the opposite, they think they’re helping you but in fact they’re just consulting their own writings on their walls, which is telling them they can’t have what they want.

And the people closest to you, the ones who love you can also sabotage your success.  It doesn’t matter how much they love you, how hard you try to explain to them or how much they get you, they can’t possibly share the same feelings as you because they aren’t you.  They aren’t inside your body, feeling what you’re feeling, seeing what you’re seeing, thinking what you’re thinking or hearing what you hear.

If you have that deep knowing that you are here for something more than you are sharing right now, then you must start listening to that voice of wisdom.  The inner you, the perfect you, the all knowing you, is on your side and will help you get to where you’re supposed to be.

You can have what you want and do you know how I know, because I have what I want and if I can have it then so can you.

Put yourself first, own up to what’s keeping you small and do what you’ve got to do to make it happen.  When you’re happy and fulfilled, everyone around you benefits so much more than when you deny yourself your truth.

Love,

Natasha

Ready to Make Big Waves instead of Small Splashes?

I know if you’re reading this, you’re what I call a Passioneer.  A Passioneer is someone who knows they are here to make Big Waves in the world and are fed up of only making small splashes.

Passioneers have a fire in their belly and know they are here to do something special.  And believe it or not Passioneers have Passion, but don’t always know how to uncover it, channel it and make the Big Waves they’re capable of.

Most Passioneers are supposed to be running their own successful businesses because making Big Waves isn’t about being tied down to achieving other peoples dreams for them, it’s about achieving their own dreams and then inspiring others to do the same.

If this is you and you want to learn how I’ve made Big Waves in my life, my families life, in my clients lives and how I contribute to raising the consciousness of our beautiful planet – then it’s time you spent a VSP day with me.

A Very Special Person day is your chance to Supercharge your FLOW and get on the Pathway to achieving more Fulfilment, Love, Opportunity and Wealth.  And the good news is that I’m taking applications to join me for a day in Brussels, London, San Diego or Virtually.

Last year I invested in myself heavily and spent money I didn’t have, the rewards were seconds to none.  This year I did exactly the same and if you’ve been following my emails, you’ll know that my life and business have sky rocketed beyond my expectations.  This is exactly what happens when you ‘Step Up’ and make yourself and your future worth it.

If you think it’s time to invest in your future then it’s time to apply for your VSP day.  All you have to do is email info@natashaabudarham.com with VSP day and the country you want to meet me in and I will send you an application form and the dates available.

Please note, I made a big boo boo in my agenda, so if you are in Brussels or can attend Virtually, I have 8, 9 and 10 July available at a 50% discount.  You gotta be quick because these are going to fly off the shelf!

I’m excited to be assisting, guiding and supporting the Passioneers who know they’re supposed to be making Big Waves with me!

Love,

Natasha

P.S. Read how others have made Big Waves in their lives

The Walk Out

I remember July 2008 very clearly, I was crying my eyes out after having another ear bashing from my boss.  Clearly I couldn’t carry on like this, I was miserable and of course it was all down to the job I hated and the boss who didn’t seem to let up.  I’d been thinking about quitting for months but didn’t have the courage to let go of the only income I had and with very little money in the bank, I couldn’t afford to just walk out without having another job to go to.  The problem was that the job had been slowly killing me for the last 12 months and the more miserable I became, the more desperately I searched for a way out.

That night I went to bed and something seemed to shift in me because I woke up the next morning a changed Woman.  I knew exactly what I needed to do and nothing was going to stop me from doing it.

Within the week, I had cut off my hair, cleared out my wardrobe, let go of draining friends and with a brand new outlook on life, I walked into work and handed in my resignation.  The relief I felt when I walked out the door was amazing. It wasn’t just a job I was walking out on, finally I had set myself free from the shackles that had held me captive for far too long.

I’d love to say that my ‘walk out’ happened out of the blue, but it didn’t.  It was the previous 7 months of diving into the inner me and clearing away all the cobwebs that kept me stuck.  Today I still do exactly the same, if something isn’t serving my highest good, then I simply walk out of that state and step into the shoes that belong to me.  It’s not always easy which is why I choose to have people help me along the way and just as importantly I choose to be my own best friend.

Sending my love to those of you who have also been set free and courage to those who are nearly there.

Love,
Natasha

Free Teleclass: 7 Steps to Creating and Maintaining Relationships that Rock!

I’ve been in Spain for the last week to watch my Sister and her long term partner finally get hitched!  It’s been a wonderful few days sharing it with the rest of my family and of course, taking some time out is always a good thing!

I’ve just come back to my room after a lazy day by the pool and suddenly thought I should let you know about a teleclass that I’m giving on Monday 28 June at 5pm in UK, 6pm CET, 12pm Eastern.

I am going to be speaking with Rachel Moheban, Founder of The Relationship Suite. Rachel contacted me a few months ago asking if I would share, my insights into creating and maintaining great relationships with her community. I jumped at the chance, especially since this is an area I have had particularly great success in.

Creating and maintaining great relationships is a vital component to achieving ultimate happiness. We have so many different types of relationships, it makes sense to know how to get them right.

In this 1 hour class, I’m going to be sharing with you my ‘7 Steps to Creating and Maintaining Relationships that Rock’. This is a formula that can be used for all types of relationships, whether it be romantic, family, friends, colleagues, relationships with clients and even that most important relationship with yourself!

This class is taken over the telephone, so you will have to dial in to a number in USA. All details will be sent to you by email once you’ve registered.

To register for this class, go to www.couplestoolkit.com

Hope you’ll join us!

Love,

Natasha

xxxxx

Dream Big & Dig Deep

Wow where do the days go!  I was supposed to write a new post and with all the traveling around visiting wedding venues, flying back to Belgium and fitting in all my other commitments, I’ve barely had a chance to think let alone write!

I’ve been pondering what to share with you and every time I fixed on something, I would start writing and then change my mind!  There’s so much I want to give you but I have to be mindful that I’m writing an email not a book!

So here it is, I’ve decided to leave you with a question to ponder.

What is the highest vision you have for yourself?

Take some time to think about it and write down whatever comes to you.  Make your vision as grand as you can, include every area of your life; your relationships, family, career, finances, health, hobbies, sports, enjoyment, passion, life purpose, spirituality, anything that is important to you.  Allow yourself to dream big and dig deep, anything goes, this is your highest vision.

At this point, you don’t need to know how you will bring this into your life, you don’t even have to believe it can happen.  All you have to do is open a window of possibility that it ‘could’ happen and allow yourself to dream.

Use all of your senses to get into the flow of this magical life, that is yours in your imagination.  Get a sense of the true you, the authentic you, the all knowing, all loving you.  Feel what it’s like standing in your power, owning your life, living on purpose, sharing, contributing, laughing, en-joying, being free.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t know whether you are remembering something from the past, whether you are imagining it or whether you are actually seeing it with your own eyes in this very moment.  This is very special and can be used to your advantage because it is your subconscious that rules the show.

It is believed that anything from 80 – 98% of everything you do is determined by the information held in the subconscious.
Your emotions, feelings, patterns, behaviours, values, attitudes, beliefs are all in there.  So once you have this higher vision of
you with all the senses attached to it, your subconscious can and will help you to make it happen.

Now, ask yourself what you can do to take the next step to achieving your highest vision.  Commit to doing something for you, it doesn’t matter what it is, just get moving, take some action, remember it doesn’t have to be perfect.

When you’ve made the decision to ‘Go Get’ the life you deserve and you support it with action, you will be amazed at what YOU have in store for YOU!

Don’t sell yourself short, your are important, your are brilliant and you can live by the ‘I can have it all rule’.

I sincerely hope you have taken at least 1 small thing from these emails.  I’d be delighted to hear your thoughts!

Love,
Natasha

P.S. Can you remember I wrote in a post that some of you would Step Up, Stand Out and Be Recognised, well 2 of you have already stepped forward and I’m going to be giving another 8 of you the chance to do the same.  Look out for more information coming soon!

P.P.S. We’ve booked our wedding venue!  The first place we saw had our name on it.  It’s amazing how easily things fall into place when you are aligned with your purpose.  Being guided to your next step is so much easier that trying to figure it out for yourself!